How I Knew I Needed Change — And Where I Started
When I Didn’t Feel Like Myself Anymore
For a while, I didn’t feel like myself.
My sleep was off. I had little energy beyond the bare minimum. I wasn’t moving with intention, and I wasn’t always showing up for the people closest to me in the way I wanted to. It wasn’t one big moment—it was a quiet buildup over time.
I was doing what I had to do, but nothing more. I was coasting. Mentally, I felt easily overstimulated. Physically, I was constantly tired. Wanting to get back in bed felt like a daily thought. I knew something wasn’t aligned.
The Growing Desire for Something More
Over time, I could feel the desire for change growing.
I started thinking more about happiness—not just functioning, but genuinely enjoying my life. I found myself craving joy and connection again, especially with myself.
I wanted to know where to start. I wanted support without judgment. I wanted to feel grounded again.
Wanting Happiness That Came From Me
Many parts of my life contributed to this realization—my family, my clients, and myself.
I began to understand that I wanted happiness that didn’t depend on other people or circumstances. I wanted to feel better because of me—because of how I showed up for myself.
I care deeply for others, but I realized I had been doing just enough for myself. I wanted more than “enough.” I wanted to show up in a more meaningful way—for everyone, including me.
The Moment I Felt Ready for Change
When I finally acknowledged the need for change, what surprised me most was the feeling that followed.
I didn’t feel fear.
I felt relief.
I felt ready to do the work.
Choosing Where to Begin
I didn’t know exactly where to start, so I focused on what didn’t feel good.
I chose to focus on rest, mindset, intention, and consistency. I reminded myself this wasn’t about perfection—it was about showing up for myself, again and again.
The First Step That Changed Everything
The first intentional step I took was simple, but impactful.
I committed to going to bed at a reasonable time—no matter what.
Prioritizing my sleep gave me the energy to pour back into myself. It reminded me how deeply rest affects us—mentally, physically, and emotionally.
From there, things began to shift.
What I’m Proud of Now
One of my biggest wins has been learning how to recognize what I need and actually give it to myself.
I’m proud of myself for noticing that something needed to change and choosing to act. I feel more patient, healthier, and more aligned—mentally, physically, and spiritually.
What Change Has Taught Me
What I’ve learned is this: every change is possible with consistency.
The hardest part isn’t the work.
The hardest part is starting.
If you know something needs to change but don’t know where to begin, pause and reflect. Ask yourself what feels missing. Not what needs to be perfect—just what would help you feel better.
Why I’m Sharing This
Even as a therapist, I have low moments too.
Doing the work to feel better is always my goal—not just for myself, but so I can continue supporting others. My hope is that this helps you feel seen and reminds you that meaningful change often begins quietly.
This is the heart of Balancing Life With Therapy—prioritizing yourself, creating balance, and growing into a life that feels more aligned and fulfilling.
If this resonates, allow yourself to pause and check in. Change doesn’t have to be overwhelming—it often starts with one intentional choice.
Therapist’s Reflection
Lately, I’ve noticed many women quietly pushing through exhaustion, telling themselves they should be able to handle more. In sessions, I often hear, “I don’t know why I feel so overwhelmed — nothing is technically wrong.” This pattern shows up when someone has been emotionally carrying too much for too long.
Here’s Some Insight Friend…
From a psychological perspective, chronic stress activates the nervous system’s threat response. Over time, the brain becomes wired for survival rather than restoration. Research shows that prolonged emotional overload can impact motivation, focus, mood, and even physical health — making rest feel difficult even when it’s needed most.
What This Looks Like in Real Life…
This often looks like feeling constantly tired but unable to slow down, becoming more irritable with loved ones, losing interest in things you once enjoyed, or feeling emotionally numb. Many people describe feeling “off” but can’t quite explain why.
Take A Moment To Reflect
Where do I feel most emotionally drained right now?
What am I currently carrying that feels heavier than it used to?
When was the last time I truly felt rested — mentally and emotionally?
What part of my life feels most out of balance?
What would it look like to offer myself the same care I give others?
A Small Step Forward
You don’t need to change everything at once. One small step this week could be:
Setting one small boundary around your time
Scheduling 10 minutes of uninterrupted quiet
Noticing when you say “I’m fine” but don’t feel fine
Small steps build sustainable change
When You’re Ready for the Next Step
If this topic resonates, you may also find support with the books listed below…
→ The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown
A beautiful exploration of authenticity, vulnerability, and wholehearted living — great for self-acceptance.
→ Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr. Joe Dispenza
Explores how thoughts, beliefs, and emotions shape identity — a strong choice for foundational inner change.
→The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
Focuses on present-moment awareness and letting go of rumination — helpful for anxiety and overthinking
